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Make Peace with Your Past

Lastly, for our Fall In Love With Yourself February series, I wanted to speak on the importance of letting go of the past.

Sure. There are So. Many. Other. Topics. to discuss - and have been discussed many times by others far more qualified than I - on the subject of learning to love yourself.

Things like:

  • Self-care
  • Journaling
  • Health & nutrition
  • Practicing gratitude
  • Do hard things - challenge yourself
  • Don’t drink alcohol (or very little)
  • Don't dwell on what doesn't matter
  • Be present

The list goes on.

We’ll likely get into these in later posts, but for our Fall in Love With Yourself February series, I wanted to delve into the deep stuff. The things that worked for me.

Technically, doing the things listed above are what eventually led me to these deeper thoughts… but as I said, I wanted to get right to the nitty-gritty.

Make Peace with Your Past

Nothing good ever comes from dwelling in the past. It can’t be changed; only learned from. The only moment we ever have is right Now.

Whatever you’ve done or experienced in the past is no more than a memory (and probably a learning experience).

Chances are, even your memories of past experiences are distorted.

We’re creative beings and we experience life through the lens of, well, our past experiences. What this means is that everything you say, do, see, feel, is always “painted” through the mirror/lens of your own mind.

Add this to the fact that we’re forgetful (quick, tell me, what did you do last week? Yesterday? 5 minutes ago?). Ask a friend who was with you during some past event and I bet they’ll have a different variation on the same memory.

However we remember our past, we’ve all done or experienced things that we wish we hadn’t.

Maybe someone hurt you. Maybe you hurt someone. Probably both.

Point is, dwelling on it won’t change anything!

All that’ll do is keep you in the past, keep you suffering that misery over and over again.

The only remedy, the only way to “fix” the past… is to learn from it and be better right Now.

This could mean setting boundaries (for the way others treat you, or how you treat yourself), or a decision to be kinder (again, to others and/or to yourself), or it could mean making different choices in your life… doing something today that scares you a little (or a lot); something that will make you grow.

Learning from the past, letting go of it, and working on being the best you that you can be today… that is how you evolve. That is how you make your future better… today.

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